Honestly, I’ve never had trouble with my weight. I’ve always been fairly petite, being 5’6″, and basically, in the past, I have eaten whatever I wanted, and I never suffered. Like in March of this year, not going to lie, I had borderline abs. I was killing it. But I was also staying active by rollerblading at least 4 times a week while also doing some at home workouts. Anyways. On to my point here. Then I started to gain weight. Over the course of 2 or 3 months, I had gained roughly 10 pounds. Honestly, gaining weight is terrible. It does not make you feel good about yourself at all. It totally ruins your body confidence.
Although I did gain weight, I think it was more of me growing into my body because I had been wearing the same size shorts I had been wearing in 8th grade, and I only really grew taller, rather than wider. So basically, I think that I just kind of “grew up” in a way.
I not only grew up physically, but I also grew up mentally. I gained some body confidence.
Yes, I did still gain 10 pounds, and yes I had to buy all new shorts due to not being able to fit in my teeny tiny shorts, and yes, I did feel “fat” because I had gained so much weight, for me, in such a small amount of time.
But you know what?
WHO CARES. Honestly. Who really cares if you went up 2 whole sizes in your pant size? And who cares if you gained 10 pounds? No one can really judge you on gaining weight, even if you couldn’t control it. Regardless of that, no one has the right to judge you period on your appearance. People should only be concerned with their bodies, and they should not go out judging people when they don’t have the right to. Judging and bashing other girls’ bodies just makes you look bad. It doesn’t make the girl you’re talking about any “fatter” or “uglier”. It just makes you an uglier person.
Body confidence is totally up to you. You really have to love yourself in order to make peace with your body. You have accept that maybe you don’t have a “thigh gap”, which by the way, who really has a thigh gap? Maybe you don’t have big boobs, (me, all the way) or maybe you don’t like the way your stomach rolls when you lean over, or maybe you think that your arms “jiggle” too much, or maybe you think you have “kankles”. Seriously, it is OKAY. Nobody is perfect in any way. I know I’m not perfect. But in this society, with every other Instagram post being a girl flaunting her skinny body in her new bathing suit, it can be seriously hard to love yourself, or even accept your body.
Although I’m not the biggest fan of my stomach, or my thighs, I do know that I love my calves, I love my arm definition, and I love my shoulders. Finally, I truly have some body confidence. There are days where I feel really bad about myself and I tear myself down and I rip myself apart on how my body looks, but everyone has those days. But find the things that you do love about yourself. Write them down. Keep a journal and write down 10 things each day you love about yourself- not only about your body, but write down anything and everything that makes you happy.
I’m still trying not to judge and compare, and really, it is a long and hard thing to overcome because it is second nature to me and mostly everyone, or so it seems. As I try not to judge and compare, I realize that no matter what you look like, if you have abs or no abs, if you have a big butt or a small butt, if you have big thighs or little thighs, you will not be happy with your body until you have body confidence. You will continue to compare. After all, you always want what you can’t have.
I have come to terms with my body, and I have accepted my flaws. When you accept your flaws, no one can use them against you.
After I gained those ten pounds, I started to work out more frequently, I ditched the Doritos and other junk foods, and I started to not only see some slight changes in my body, but I also started to feel better. I not only felt better inside, but I also felt better on the outside. I started to feel better about my appearance and I started to love myself. Because I started to workout more frequently, I knew that I was staying healthy and strong, and that is all that matters. Strong and healthy is way better than lazy and skinny. Trust me.
Now, even though I still have those days where I can’t stand the way I look, I love myself above all else, and I tell myself that I am beautiful and loved. And ultimately, God made you the way you are. He did not make any mistakes, and he certainly did not make you intending for you to hate the way he made you. You are unique and special, no matter what! The most important thing is that God loves you, and He made you just the way he wanted, and He did not make any mistakes.
Seriously, start loving yourself, and your body confidence will be boosted, and your confidence will outshine anything. The way you hold yourself goes way farther than what people think of you. Confidence is beauty in my opinion. I’ve read, I’m not sure how legit it is, but, that men would rather date an overweight woman that has confidence, than a skinny model who is insecure about her body. Confidence, body confidence is key. And if you are ever feeling “fat” or “chubby”, go run or exercise for 15 minutes, or just get moving and be active. Also tell yourself that you are being completely ridiculous and that you are loved, no matter what you look like! You will really feel so so much better!