One of the best, one of the hardest, one of the greatest, and one of the most challenging things I’ve ever done in my life: being a rho gamma.
I’m not even sure why I applied to be a Rho Gamma. I think that I hated the rush process so much that I decided that I would rather encourage girls. I find my life and my happiness through encouraging others. Making others known that they are loved, that they are worthy, and that they are beautiful is so powerful in my eyes, and honestly, I don’t think it’s said enough.
Recruitment is hard. It’s just a hard process. It’s sad, it’s happy, it’s heartbreaking, and it’s a place for growth. I’ve realized that the hardest places in life are the places that you grow the most, where you learn the best.
Jumping into the process of recruitment, I had no idea what to expect. I knew that I would be a leader to 15 or so girls and I knew that I would have a Rho Gam partner to help me lead, but I had no idea what kind of impact these two weeks would bring.
When my partner, Anna, and I were first paired with each other as Rho Gam partners in the spring, we knew nothing about each other. Some girls foreshadowed that we would absolutely love each other and we would be the best partner pair, but I was a little wary. I’m not the type of person who makes friends quickly and I was just assuming that this partner relationship would be the minimum, just doing our job, talking to girls, etc. Of course I wanted a new friend out of this process, but I surely didn’t expect the incredible one that God had in store for me.
It’s really hard to put into words what was the best and the hardest experience of my senior year thus far, maybe even of college. There were tears, there were laughs, there were times when I thought I wanted to quit. Well, not actually quit, but it was hard.
Being a rho gam taught me many things. While I was a rho gam, I was pushed to love past my comfort zone, to encourage when I was empty, and to rely on others for support. I learned to be strong for other people, and I learned that filling others up is way more fulfilling than serving myself.
I learned that everyone is going through something and no one has a perfect life. While I already knew this, it was reinforced in my life. I saw girls get their hearts broken and I saw girls get what they wanted from the start. No matter what situation the girls were in, heartbroken and sad or joyful and happy, everyone needs a friend and everyone needs community.
There were some girls in our Rho Gam Group that wanted to quit. There were girls who wanted to drop out and stop trying because they didn’t like the circumstances they were left with. As I was pouring truth into these girls, I was also pouring truth into myself. Sometimes God wrecks your plans to give you and provide you with something much greater than you could ever have imagined.
Another realization about rush is this: People say that rush is terrible…. But if you think about it, rush is a strong representation of the fall and of our world today. Nothing is perfect and nothing is good in this world but Jesus and we have our hope in Him. He is the only one who has a perfect image. We are all stained with sin and we are so faulty and not worthy… Jesus loves us so much yet we hurt so many people. He loves us so much yet we disobey him daily over and over again…
I see how it can be so faulty and sinful and bad, but I also can see how good it can be as you have community. You just can’t find your worth in your sorority and you have to hold it with a grain of salt. It’s really like bullying sometimes and I do agree that everyone who wants to join should be able to because everyone is beautiful and worthy- they truly are. Even I still don’t completely understand the process and how it all works and how it can be good, but Jesus is greater than the bad and the terrible in this world.
Recruitment, wherever you go, will be hard. It’s hard whether you are a freshman or a senior, whether you’re in a sorority or you’re not. It’s hard either way.
As a rho gam, recruitment was hard because I was pouring into girls everyday when I didn’t have the energy to do so. It was hard because I sometimes ignored my own emotions and needs for the sake of my girls (worth it though). It was hard because I wanted so badly to let my girls know how loved they are, but what I was saying was only words. Some people were impacted and some people might have taken my words and encouragement lightly, but no matter the impact or the effects, I am thankful. I am thankful for this opportunity and I am thankful for this leap of faith I willingly decided to take.
While recruitment is so hard, it can also be so good. I am someone who is not obsessed with my sorority. I honestly could be fine in any other house or even as an independent. I’ve learned that sororities aren’t everything and every house has amazing girls. If being a Rho Gam has taught me one thing, it’s that EVERY single sorority has amazing people and not one is any better than another! Greek life as a whole is so encouraging- Sororities are great vessels to grow, learn, love, and change for the better, but truly truly, every single sorority on Samford’s campus is incredible.
Every girl deserves to feel loved and worthy and going through rush doesn’t promise that you will feel that way, just like life doesn’t have any promises.
We are not promised anything in this life. We are not promised money, fame, or even tomorrow. We are promised that we will be pursued by our Creator, though. He loves us so deeply and dearly. He is your #1 fan and He wants you in His house.
The girls I got to know in my rho gam group are truly gems. They are all so beautiful and they have a place in my heart. They have such bright futures and I can’t wait to see how they grow and learn at Samford.
As for having a partner in this process, I’m pretty convinced I was blessed with the very best partner. We quickly became friends as we shared our hearts and our struggles and our joys with our girls. As we tag teamed in encouraging girls, I was encouraged by Anna’s words and her fire for the Lord. I am so incredibly thankful for her every single day and I’m honestly sad that I wasn’t friends with her sooner than this year. She is the absolute best. She loves well, she is effortlessly cool, she makes you feel like you’re her best friend, she willingly shares her flaws, and she is one of the strongest people I know. What a good gift of friendship from our good Lord.
Yes, being a Rho Gam was hard, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I wouldn’t trade the friendships I’ve made, the growth I’ve experienced, or the love I’ve seen because it was so impactful in my life. I was able to make a difference in girls’ lives and I was able to push them closer to Jesus, all while they did just the same for me.