Something has been on my heart and on my mind recently about fashion.
Fashion has become so fake.
Have you ever felt like you aren’t good enough based off of what you saw on social media or a fashion bloggers Instagram? Have you ever felt like you can’t connect with someone because they seem “too good,” “too cool” or “too perfect”?
I hate to break it to you, but real life isn’t perfect. People aren’t perfect.
In this case, I am starting a hashtag and I am *trying* to make this thing a movement where people feel good about themselves because they are real.
Some of you might be thinking, “this is the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard of,” but it is my hope that the majority of you will be encouraged to join this movement and to participate in #realfashionrealme.
I decided to start this when I was once again getting tired of trying to measure up. Day after day I would open up my Instagram app, scroll a little, see some bloggers who looked perfect, see a blogger who just bought a new outfit (again) just because, see a blogger who had perfect hair (as always), and guess how I felt? I felt like the behind the scenes me, the real me that I knew, wasn’t enough. I felt like I didn’t measure up to what I saw on my screen.
I am a firm believer that fashion should show who YOU ARE. Not who you are trying to be and not who you want to be. Fashion is what you make it. Fashion is creative, it’s expressive, you should define it. Not IT define YOU.
How can you tell who someone is if they are faking it all the time? I mean, really?
If everyone is the same and dressing the same, the only thing different, is that we physically look different.
Real fashion is whatever you want it to be. It’s whatever and whoever YOU are.
To me, real fashion is being my truest self.
To me, real fashion is re-wearing clothes. A lot.
To me, real fashion is showing up in what I feel comfortable in, not what society tells me is comfortable.
To me, real fashion is when I am authentic and just REAL.
When did fashion become a competition? When did fashion become so superficial? When did the passion of fashion blogging get replaced by the aspiration of fame?
As I see it, fashion has become so incredibly superficial. I can tell you that normal people do not wake up with perfect hair and most people cannot afford to buy a new outfit each day.
Why are you only considered fashionable if you are the tiniest size and have the longest legs? Why are you only considered fashionable if you have the “it” bag?
I think that you should buy a pair of shoes because YOU think they are cute. I say you should wear that dress that’s 5 years old because you love it. I say you do what’s true to yourself.
For me, I will probably never be a fan of those laceup shirts because that’s not me. For me, super short dresses will never be a thing for me because they aren’t me- I prefer tea length dresses. But that’s just me.
I’m tired of the rules and the guidelines to fashion.
Wear what you want. You don’t need to follow some rules to have a cute outfit. You don’t need to buy a new dress in order to be cool or popular.
I’m not trying to diss fashion bloggers because I’m one myself. I’ve fallen victim to trying to be perfect. I’ve fallen victim to make it look like I’m perfect. Why? Because society tells me so. Society and fashion have told me for so long that I need to do X, Y and Z in order to fit in or be pretty. I’ve realized that this just makes me superficial and fake. Being real and authentic is what makes me feel pretty.
I will wear what I want, when I want, because that’s real life.
I LIVE for authenticity. I live for real friendships, honest conversations, vulnerable confessions, and authentic people.
Most days I wear my hair without styling it because that’s when I feel myself the most. Most days I don’t wear makeup because that’s just who I am.
All of that being said, I would love it if y’all joined me in this movement I’ve started on a whim. I want girls, I want you, to believe in real fashion. I want you to be your truest self. If you’d like, I would love you to hashtag your photos #realfashionrealme or #rngoos (real never goes out of style… haha that last hashtag seriously makes me crack up because it just sounds goofy).
I want all people to know that superficial exists, but it isn’t real. Being real is hard and raw, but it’s so freeing.
Just be you, the real you. Real never goes out of style.
I never openly or directly ask y’all to share my posts, but I’m asking you this time. Please share this post if you see fit. I want girls to know that fashion should be real and it should be true to yourself.
(Yes, I bought that purse with my own money and yes, I bought it because I’ve wanted it for years. I bought this as a “real fashion real me” purchase, so please no hate on that…)