The Perfect Girl

Recently I have had a few people tell me that I am perfect or my life seems so put together. This really bugs me and it really makes me feel uncomfy, if I’m being honest. What in my life seems perfect to you? What part of my life seems perfect, free from sin, or flawless?

Let me just give it to you straight. I am not perfect. Never have been, never will be.

I am HUMAN just like you. I FAIL just like you. My life is MESSY just like yours. My life is IMPERFECT just like yours. All of the flaws that you see in your life are also present in my life, just in different ways.

It actually makes me laugh that some people think that my life is so put together and perfect because it is so FAR from that. I have days when I am sad. I have days where I feel chunky. I have days where I make people upset. I have days when I feel helpless. I have days (a lot of days) where my room is messy.

Sometimes the girl you think is so perfect and so put together is the girl that has the messiest life, the life that needs a whole lot more of Jesus, the life that is slowly falling apart. Appearances are just that: appearances. They are not a real representation of the heart. Jesus looks at the heart: the raw and the real.

As humans, it is natural for us to judge by appearance, to judge by Instagram, to judge by clothing, to judge by status. It’s just how we are wired. We are wired to take one look and make a million judgements and notions about a person before even knowing their name.

The thing about making these judgements is that you sell that person short. You don’t let them break that stereotype you’ve assigned them and YOU are the one who is missing out. You are missing out on getting to know an awesome person. You are missing out on making a new friend, someone who could become your new best friend.

No one is perfect. I am NOT perfect and it makes me sad that people have thought this in the past. I’m not perfect. You’re not perfect. I’m not any better than you are because I workout everyday and I make my bed every morning. No checklist or status will ever make you into a perfect person nor will it ever bring you full happiness.

Have you ever sat there and thought to yourself, “When I am older, when I am living in my own apartment, when I have a boyfriend, when I get straight As (or whatever you tell yourself), THEN I will feel confident about my life. THEN my life will be good. THEN my life will be ‘put together,'” whatever that means.

What standard do you base perfection on? Is it beautiful hair? Is it a skinny body? Is it having a boyfriend? Is it eating healthy? Is it having nice clothes? Whatever your idea of perfection is, I want you to throw it away, to get rid of it and forget about it.

Your life will never be good and joyful if you base perfection on things of this world. Your life will be perfect. Just accept that. Other people’s lives may look perfect, but that’s just the devil telling you that you aren’t good enough. Jesus is good enough for you and He is the only perfection you will ever need in your life.