I’m taking on a big-sister kind of role here when I say, don’t settle.
Don’t settle, no matter how much you want to.
Don’t settle for the boy that is kind of rude, but he tells you you’re beautiful.
Don’t settle for the boy who doesn’t love and follow Jesus.
Don’t settle for the boy who uses you.
Don’t settle for the boy who doesn’t lead you to Christ.
Don’t settle for the boy who makes you feel sad.
Don’t settle for the boy who is handsome, but doesn’t have a good personality.
Settle for the boy who loves Jesus more than he loves you.
Settle for the boy who makes you feel beautiful.
Settle for the boy who cares about your life.
Settle for the boy with high standards.
Settle for the boy with the beautiful heart and beautiful thoughts.
Settle for the boy that you love.
Nowadays, everyone is settling. He is handsome, so that means it’s okay to be in a relationship, right? He sometimes makes fun of me, but he tells me I’m pretty, so that’s okay, right? He doesn’t respect me, but he buys me presents, is that okay?
No ma’am. This is not okay. Every part of me does not want you to settle for less than you are worth. You are so intricately made and so wonderfully loved that you deserve a man who makes you laugh until your stomach hurts, who loves you unconditionally, who has a heart of gold.
And yes, those men are out there. Somewhere. Wait for the right relationship. Wait for the man who holds the door for you and wait for the man who thinks you’re beautiful even when you have no makeup on.
Most of all, wait for the man that loves Jesus.
Someone at church said some wise words; “If you share the blood of Christ, you have a lot more in common than you think.” Wait for the man who loves Jesus more than he loves you. Wait for the man who talks to Jesus first thing in the morning. Wait for the man who holds his Bible close to his heart.
Please don’t settle, sweet one. Don’t settle out of fear, fear that no one better will come along. Don’t settle because you think that you’re getting too old. Don’t settle because it’s just “good enough.” Don’t settle for mediocre.
I truly believe that you are capable, you are loved, and you can do better than mediocre. God has someone special for you and He will provide, even if you have doubts. His truth is constant and it stands.
Don’t settle because you’ve been hurt. Don’t settle because you are lonely. Don’t settle because you are scared.
Start to have high standards. Make a checklist of qualities a man must have: loves Jesus, is compassionate, is humble, etc. Make a checklist and hold that close to your heart whenever you think you are about to fall for a guy.
No matter what, you don’t need someone to be happy. You don’t need a relationship with the hottest guy on the football team to be loved and to feel loved. You are already loved because you are you. Jesus doesn’t love you because of what you’ve done, He loves you for being you. Jesus thinks about you every second and He loves to love you.
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Psalm 139:14
The Lord will provide and He will make you feel so loved and worthy, if you let him. Open up your bible, find your worth, and trust in Him.
This has taken me awhile to realize. I have been single all of my life and the hype over relationships can be hard. It really can. I know that God has someone perfect for me and that man will come when the Lord’s timing is right. Imagine if things went my way, and my life was my plan, not God’s… I would have ended up being a full time princess (not bad), I would have lived in a rainbow castle (not bad either), and I would have been married to a boy who loved monkeys. He only loved monkeys. (Now that’s bad.)
When you look back on your life, aren’t you thankful that you aren’t in control of your life? Think about how stressful that would be… Planning your whole life start to finish? My oh my, that would be bad. Good thing we aren’t in control of our lives, because some bad things would have happened. (Anyone else wished they lived in the Webkinz website and lived in their houses? Just me? ) This is no exception. God has you on his plan, on his time, on his terms. He knows exactly what He is doing, even when you are stuck and clueless and afraid. You don’t need to be afraid of the future, you don’t need to fear not finding a husband because you are enough.
While you are waiting for the right relationship, wait for the right relationship.
Say yes to His promises and say yes to the future.
Find out who God created you to be.
Find your potential.
Live like you’re loved (because you are).
Make a checklist.
Trust in the Lord.
Set your standards high.